Comments on: Love and Logic to the Rescue http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/ the unedited adventures of a witty wordsmith Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:44:37 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Amy http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-421 Amy Thu, 26 Nov 2009 11:44:43 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-421 Wendy - yup, time-ins on our lap (holding), and often his consequences now are to try to teach more empathy (make a "sorry card" or have him think of something nice to do for the person he's done wrong to). Therapist pointed out that we can't make any headway with Ro until our parenting techniques are a little more... not what we grew up with. :) Wendy – yup, time-ins on our lap (holding), and often his consequences now are to try to teach more empathy (make a “sorry card” or have him think of something nice to do for the person he’s done wrong to). Therapist pointed out that we can’t make any headway with Ro until our parenting techniques are a little more… not what we grew up with. :)

]]> By: Lee Ann http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-420 Lee Ann Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:37:03 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-420 Sounds like a book filled with practical and sound advice. I think that was the book a couple at the Yachats Presbyterian Church was using to lead a parenting class. I know it impressed them. Sounds like a book filled with practical and sound advice. I think that was the book a couple at the Yachats Presbyterian Church was using to lead a parenting class. I know it impressed them.

]]> By: Wendy http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-419 Wendy Wed, 25 Nov 2009 19:56:32 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-419 Amy, are you making some changes like time sitting with you instead of time out or anything like that because of attachment? I have heard of that although I'm not sure under what circumstances that's advised. I think all teachers who have survived more than a couple years use some form of this! Amy, are you making some changes like time sitting with you instead of time out or anything like that because of attachment? I have heard of that although I’m not sure under what circumstances that’s advised.

I think all teachers who have survived more than a couple years use some form of this!

]]> By: Wendy http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-418 Wendy Wed, 25 Nov 2009 19:54:29 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-418 Well, we all do them sometimes, Wayne. Good thing our walls are thick! Well, we all do them sometimes, Wayne. Good thing our walls are thick!

]]> By: Amy http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-417 Amy Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:26:40 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-417 We not only use Love & Logic with Roman (most the time - there are some special things we have had to start implementing) but I use it at school with students. They totally get it. Their irritation is usually because I won't engage in an argument with them ("students who act appropriately get to stay in class") so they can't use their classic techniques. We have struggled with the amount of warnings as well, and are working on that. Doug is having to curb the lecturing - talking does not work. Action and natural consequence. And lastly, I do remember end-of-2 and start-of-3 being the worst. :) We not only use Love & Logic with Roman (most the time – there are some special things we have had to start implementing) but I use it at school with students. They totally get it. Their irritation is usually because I won’t engage in an argument with them (”students who act appropriately get to stay in class”) so they can’t use their classic techniques.

We have struggled with the amount of warnings as well, and are working on that. Doug is having to curb the lecturing – talking does not work. Action and natural consequence. And lastly, I do remember end-of-2 and start-of-3 being the worst. :)

]]> By: Beka McDowell http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-416 Beka McDowell Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:49:20 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-416 NEED that book. NEEd it desperately. Because 4 is worse than "the end of the 2's" if you still implement all of the no-no's. Which I do. UGH. NEED that book. NEEd it desperately. Because 4 is worse than “the end of the 2’s” if you still implement all of the no-no’s. Which I do. UGH.

]]> By: Ren http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-415 Ren Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:01:26 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-415 We picked up Parenting with Love & Logic when the girls were tiny just so that we would have a platform to jump from. It was a life saver. We learned to only give (1) warning, give them a consequence that we could live with, how to implement the "Naughty Step" and to remember that once their "time-out" was served, it was important to give hugs and kisses and lots of encouragement. These days, at 4, the girls get plenty of warnings, but 99% of the time, they make the "good" choice. Such a great feeling... Keep up the good work, Wendy! The amount of effort that you put forth only proves what a great parent you are... We picked up Parenting with Love & Logic when the girls were tiny just so that we would have a platform to jump from. It was a life saver. We learned to only give (1) warning, give them a consequence that we could live with, how to implement the “Naughty Step” and to remember that once their “time-out” was served, it was important to give hugs and kisses and lots of encouragement.

These days, at 4, the girls get plenty of warnings, but 99% of the time, they make the “good” choice. Such a great feeling…

Keep up the good work, Wendy! The amount of effort that you put forth only proves what a great parent you are…

]]> By: Jenny http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-414 Jenny Wed, 25 Nov 2009 12:21:27 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-414 I need to remember to stop trying to reason with someone who poops his pants and has no interest in pooping elsewhere. I'm glad to hear these end-of-2 days have been a challenge for you also, because they're about to drive me bat snot crazy. The screaming, the tantrums, the back talk! (I told J to pick up his toys and he said "Nope, sorry Charlie!") I, too am guilty of too many warnings and emotional reactions. I know what my next read will be! Happy Thanksgiving, friend! I need to remember to stop trying to reason with someone who poops his pants and has no interest in pooping elsewhere. I’m glad to hear these end-of-2 days have been a challenge for you also, because they’re about to drive me bat snot crazy. The screaming, the tantrums, the back talk! (I told J to pick up his toys and he said “Nope, sorry Charlie!”) I, too am guilty of too many warnings and emotional reactions. I know what my next read will be!

Happy Thanksgiving, friend!

]]> By: pmfh http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-413 pmfh Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:45:25 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-413 "I read that I must work on banishing sarcasm." So this is a parenting technique for mimes? ... And how can there be too much lecturing? On the other hand, warnings don't fit very well with our family motto, so we're okay there mostly. And the para. this ends is frickin' awesome: "Yeah, like a two-year-old cares about taking care of things. I mean, this is a being that poops in its pants." Great work, here. Keeps things in perspective. I'm going to quote you on this. “I read that I must work on banishing sarcasm.”

So this is a parenting technique for mimes?

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And how can there be too much lecturing? On the other hand, warnings don’t fit very well with our family motto, so we’re okay there mostly.

And the para. this ends is frickin’ awesome: “Yeah, like a two-year-old cares about taking care of things. I mean, this is a being that poops in its pants.” Great work, here. Keeps things in perspective. I’m going to quote you on this.

]]> By: cat http://livingtheepilogue.com/love-and-logic-to-the-rescue/comment-page-1/#comment-412 cat Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:42:22 +0000 http://livingtheepilogue.com/?p=529#comment-412 I read this a while back when I was out of ideas about what to do with tobo as we were in that in between stage. Not old enough to know sorry but still starting to push the boundaries. I think it is a good method of parenting, though I could probably need a refresher now that we're over 18 months. Overall I think it works, though I have to remember to cash in my "Nope, mommy's making the decision now since you made all those decisions earlier. Mommy's turn." I'm still not totally sure if he should go into time out for a tantrum or if I should ignore it. I read this a while back when I was out of ideas about what to do with tobo as we were in that in between stage. Not old enough to know sorry but still starting to push the boundaries. I think it is a good method of parenting, though I could probably need a refresher now that we’re over 18 months. Overall I think it works, though I have to remember to cash in my “Nope, mommy’s making the decision now since you made all those decisions earlier. Mommy’s turn.” I’m still not totally sure if he should go into time out for a tantrum or if I should ignore it.

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